The last farewell is the moment when relatives say goodbye to the deceased before the coffin or urn is laid to rest - beside the coffin (sometimes open), in the farewell hall or at the graveside. There is no single “right” way: you can pray, say a few words, lay a flower, stand in silence. What matters most is that the farewell is authentic and true to your feelings. We will help you prepare this moment with dignity.
The final farewell can be the hardest and at the same time the most important moment of a funeral. You cannot “prepare” for it as for a task - but a few pointers can help you get through it more calmly.
What the final farewell is
This is a symbolic moment of parting - the moment when relatives say goodbye to the deceased before the committal. It may take the form of a prayer, a few words, laying a flower, touching the coffin or simply being present in silence. In a ceremony with an open coffin the farewell tends to be more personal; with an urn it is more intimate.
How to behave - there is no wrong way
The most common worry is: “what if I start crying?”. Tears are natural and there is nothing improper about them - on the contrary, it is a healthy expression of grief. One can equally well say goodbye in quiet reflection. There is no single right reaction - what counts is sincerity.
What you can say
- Simple words: “Thank you”, “I am sorry”, “I love you”, “Rest in peace”.
- A short memory or a promise (for example, to look after someone close).
- A favourite prayer or poem, if that is close to the family.
There is no obligation to give a speech. Sometimes a single sentence means the most said from the heart.
Should you bring children?
It is an individual decision for the parents. Children also experience loss and taking part in the farewell can help them - however, it is worth to explain it calmly beforehand, what will happen, and not to force any gesture. We will adapt the course of the ceremony if young children take part.
We will help you care for this moment
We provide dignified arrangements - the farewell hall, flowers, music and a calm course of events. If you would like the farewell to take a particular form (a reading, a piece of music, a symbol), we will help you prepare it so that this moment brings comfort.